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I am curious so I sent off this list to Betterhelp T to see what his response, if any, will be. I had a session with him today and it sure does help to really talk through all my obsessive thoughts and how it all came about. I am not ungrateful for x-T's help and attention as he did try damn hard to help me but it is clear he was young and did not realize this would happen. Even so he could have faced his mistakes and talked about it with me instead of running from it.
Betterhelp T feels if I can find a connection with someone in real life this will all calm down. Maybe and maybe not. Maybe I will just obsessively attach to that person and drive them away as well. The core problem within me is not "fixed" or healed and I am not even sure how it does resolve.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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