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Originally Posted by imaginethat
My mother is the most critical, pessimistic people I've known. I'm good at not fighting over statements she makes but I don't know if I fake it anymore.
She turns every remotely negative event (any event really) into meaning that I'm an inferior, flawed, stupid person. Mothers should be supportive and not drag you down. They shouldn't make you feel like you can't do anything right.
I feel like I should be over this now that I'm nearly 50.
How do you deal with a mother like this other than never see her again? My dad isn't like this. He's the best dad a person could have. But he has trouble dealing with her, too. They've almost gotten divorced.
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I was initially misdiagnosed as MDD and got the bp 1 label years later. When I met with mom and my dad to inform them of my depression and that I had gotten addicted to my pain med after a shoulder injury, she looked at me with eyes devoid of anything motherly and said: "Well, you certainly didn't get that from me!"
My mother was cold, distant, and very hard on me from toddlerhood. I learned to disconnect and separate to protect myself. She was competent in her required duties. Will always love her, but she wasn't very nice to me. It was always my impression that I was likely an accident and she just really had never wanted me.