I think I have had this problem or feeling for a long time. I think my first therapist panicked when he saw me becoming more independent; he managed to convince me that instead of becoming healthier I was becoming manic. He needed to "help" (control) me. Of course, he framed it as my need.

I think it was Freud who spoke of the "overestimation" of a loved one that particularly a child feels towards the parents, endowing them with superhuman importance to him or her. That is natural for a child to do. But many adults do the same sort of thing to people who become important to them; they see the person as more than they really are. I think my mother saw us children as possessing a magic key to her happiness, and when we acted like children, she saw it as a betrayal. So I am on the watch for that sort of behavior from anyone, and when think I see it from a therapist the major alarm bells go off. If I have to be a therapist's savior, then I am in real trouble! Sometimes I do feel that my T is panicking.