I haven’t posted in quite awhile. Today I read a couple of posts from people on here talking about the pain of their unmet needs stemming from childhood. I so relate. The loss for me was so great ( trigger warning)

I was planning to end my life. Around September of last year I attended church occasionally and decided to ask an older couple I saw if they would be willing to be a spiritual mentor to me. (I’m a Christian). I told them I know this was an odd request but that I never had someone I could look up to and that I felt this was something I needed and felt moved to ask them. They were deeply honored and felt like it was a God moment. They didn’t think it was weird at all. So after that, we exchanged info and decided to meet up once a week. We would talk about life and our relationship with God. We did this from September until March. Around December I started feeling like they were parental figures to me and I struggled with wondering if those feelings would ever be reciprocal. Eventually I talked to them about it and it ended up being the best thing in the world. They said I was like a daughter to them. Since then, they have treated me like a part of their family. I am getting my voids filled and the parental love I have always wished for. I am also seeing a therapist and am able to do so much healing work because of the outside support I now have. Before I had this support, therapy was incredibly slow and painful. So that’s the advice that I have for those who are withering away from unmet needs. Find yourself a mentor couple. You won’t ever get those needs met through therapy. You have to put yourself out there and risk rejection but don’t stop until you find someone. Most will be honored you asked them. Please feel free to ask me any questions about it. I know not everybody will feel that this is an option or helpful for them but I just wanted to throw out there what helped me. My whole life has changed because of it.