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Aug 02, 2020, 02:42 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Finding a "new family" is certainly a way to help oneself overcome childhood trauma. I don't think that doing so is unusual in a religious environment. You were courageous to ask, Nik. I hope it works out really well for you 
I'm also (like others here) much too old for new parents. If I was a truly loving, giving, and stable person, I could adopt an elder...in fact...not a terrible idea for me, at some point.
If I was in your position (age, religious community) my nagging fear would be the same terror I have about my therapist, which is abandonment. And boundaries. And wondering if I *really* belong in those people's lives. What about their blood family? I would be so afraid of being seen as the outsider. Or the third wheel.
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