I learned that when my mother didn't say anything about something, she was okay with it. Otherwise, she always found something to criticize. I went through years of therapy as a result of her. I managed to separate from her--got married and moved away. I always dreaded calling her, but I hung in there and laughed about what she said with my sister. It would help if you could do that with somebody.

My mom died a couple of years ago at the age of 90. I'm glad I didn't kiss her off, under the circumstances and was by her side when she died. She had two personality disorders.

But you have to do what you can to survive and keep your mental health. One therapist told me if I hadn't had a sister, I'd have become psychotic.

If you want to talk more, then let me know.