I am not firm enough with boundaries, and it's something I am trying to learn to do better. I was firm enough about the nanny not staying here the first night AND about her not being allowed to stay with us once per month every month.

But I wish to God I had been firm about letting this cat in our home, when really, I didn't want to do it. That's not having firm enough boundaries. WHY can't I just be the jerk?

it's HIS family's problem, NOT ours. And we/I allowed this problem to become OUR problem now. His family kicked out the nanny. It was their responsibility to get the cats a new home, but NOT by imposing upon family members.

I am most resentful over the whole situation. And it's all my own fault for not being strong enough to be the jerk and say no. I am really angry at myself now.