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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
It’s a domestic emotional/sexual abuse situation. The therapists only treat it like it is a mental health situation. I’m afraid to have to hire the lawyer and try to divorce him once again, and fear I’ll back down once again and be a laughing stock, called mentally ill, the Boy Who Cried Wolf, and not taken seriously again and refused help, if that’s possible?  I don’t trust myself because my desire to have a good life and good relationship swing to panic attack and need to escape on a daily basis. I’m exhausted. |
I do agree with Hope that, somehow, you have to face that fear.
I am not saying our relationships are the same, but, in my case, my fear and paranoia of my husband was based on some things he was doing that were unreasonable but, for me, the only way to handle it was a combination of standing up to him and working with him. My fear/anxiety was larger than the true threat and did cause my mental health problems. Events in our marriage (life is not always easy) also contributed to my breakdown. I have forgiven him for his role in my breakdown but also played a role in the tragedy. Perhaps the tragic events were actually a blessing too because they helped me heal and be a better partner too.
I am sorry you do not feel like the mental health professionals are in your corner. I always felt like mine were in my corner but also did not go to couples therapy. My impression of couple's therapy is that it sometimes makes the situation even more complicated.
You need people who are supportive! At least you have PC.
