Gosh - you have all that and work on your hands. Of course you are tired. I don't think you are being over critical at all.

My husband does very little in terms of actual housework, but he is constantly busy with the things that I cannot (or won't) do, such as fixing a broken tap, or painting the outside wall. He cleans all the dog poop and takes out the trash. I never have to ask him. There have been times when I am so tired or have been so sick that he has washed dishes. But I do need to ask!
I am lucky in that we share cooking duties without any fuss as we both enjoy it.
Right at the beginning of our relationship I would throw such temper tantrums because I was cleaning all weekend long and nobody appreciated it because nobody says anything!! I adjusted my attitude when people I hardly knew would say they had heard how houseproud I am.

Ok, so now that I have made you envious, I really think that you deserve a bit of a break. You are going to burn out. You seem to be feeling guilty for feeling you would like your husband to contribute. He should be contributing!!

I don't want to offer advice (I would advise you speak to him but I know this is not always a workable option), but I do want to offer you support and tell you that I understand. Right up to the parents part. My Mom and ex husband always got at each other because of his laziness. It never made me feel good.

This is the hardest thing for me to do, so having said that, I am going to suggest it to you. When you get home from work, no matter how hard it is, try and leave the house alone. Get onto your favourate chair, grab your book or the remote, or a mag, and just relax. Even if it is just for an hour.

Sending you peaceful and restful thoughts.

Please take care of you