So he can be controlling, he has lied to you more than once, he uses drugs, he hacked your phone, and wanted everyone to believe you are crazy because you thought he was cheating? AND he asked for a woman's number behind your back? Is that accurate?

This sounds like an unhealthy and toxic relationship. What about your OWN personal happiness? Are YOU happy in this relationship? You talk about being concerned for his happiness, but not your own.

I would say to work on your own mental health issues and cut ties with this man. He is not healthy for you. Too many red flags that spell danger and trouble. I wouldn't trust a man who asked for a woman's phone number behind my back, or who had hacked my phone. I also wouldn't appreciate if he tried to get everyone to think I'm crazy. That's toxic. He doesn't sound like he can be trusted either, if he's lied many times.