I voted 'other'. For certain values of 'assess' and 'accurate', I think so - ex-T when she was not distracted by either institutional interference or what must have been her own counter-transference managed to act/react in helpful ways often/consistently enough that I think it has to have resulted from an accurate enough assessment. Alas, she could be wildly inaccurate at other times.
In interpretations, and other cases when she made her 'assessment' known to me ... it's often difficult for me to judge accuracy. Some things feel kind of right, but not quite, in small ways I can't pinpoint, or, on tthe other end of the spectrum, feel wrong overall, but can't dismiss entirely. Other things I don't feel at all, but kind of make sense, so maybe true? A lot of the time I felt like I was still trying to adjust to the light and try to make out stuff in one direction, and she just spun me around and pointed to something in the other direction, and then went 'a-ha, you got angry so I must be right!' She might even be right for all I know, but I won't see it unless I can figure stuff out at my own pace.
For this reason, I kind of object to spoken out assessments. Well, and for the sheer gall of someone trying to know better what I feel, what helps me, what I can or can't (safely) do. Even if she happens to be accurate (which I'm pretty sure she wasn't a lot of the time), I want to make my own assessments. Point out where she thinks I'm going wrong? Yes please. Draw my attention to stuff she thinks I have yet to consider? Yes please. Lots of non-offensive ways to share her ideas and observations. But trying to tell me what I feel, what I want and what should be important to me? **** off.
Also, I think more important than accuracy is the willingness to re-assess frequently.
As for new T, she's promising, but to early to say anything.
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