Logically or emotionally? Logically I know that is likely not about me, there was no intent to hurt me on the part of others.

Emotionally, it triggers my feelings on not being good enough or important. T said something yesterday that has caused me think. She said that I am making others responsible for my happiness and self worth. If those people do something that hurts me I am making them responsible for my unhappiness.

It is really hard though because my narrative has been "if you were a better person my parent would not have abandoned me". It is a lot of work to change that.