That, and since he gaslights you, Tisha, he is probably manipulative in the therapy sessions and is probably blaming your mental health issues to his therapist as being the problem. I am sure he is not taking any responsibility for his own toxic behaviors in therapy, and therefore, the couples therapist that you see together is being manipulated.

A marriage or relationship that has been abusive will ONLY work and be repaired IF the abuser can admit to and acknowledge their abusive behaviors. But your husband is not, the therapist is being manipulated, and your couples therapist is OF NO HELP TO YOU.

Also, in order for therapy to work, you need someone objective and your husband needs to be called out on the abuse.