I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse, and I understand the struggle. You do have a choice, and it is possible to find the strength to leave the abuse. You might take a little baby step and contact an attorney; knowledge is power..usually the first consultation is free.

It is rarely indicated for couples therapy when one is the abuser...the abuser needs to see a therapist by himself first, and deal with his issues. A therapist who understands abuse would NEVER tell you to stay and work it out....you cannot work out someone else's behavior/abuse.