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Originally Posted by LilyMop
I’m so sorry. I really do feel for you right now.
I’ve gone through a really hard time over this past year and what I’ve noticed is this... it’s quite often that most of the people you thought you could count on are the ones who walk away and turn their backs on you when you need them the most. It is the most painful and lonely feeling.
It takes a lot of resilience to pull yourself out of a hard time like this and I believe you have it.
I also believe you will find help and support in the most unexpected places. There will be other people willing to help you so don’t lose faith in everyone.Your personal and professional path is likely to take a very different turn after all this and it’s likely to be for the better.
Reading your post just now and thinking about our past discussions further clarifies to me the importance of matching the efforts of others... and NO more. You and I talked about this very recently. I have pulled way back at work and I find that I’m happier and I even get along better with others when I... Do NOT care anymore. I go through the motions and save my emotional energy for myself.
I’m still willing to be that person who would offer help and support but I’m VERY VERY selective about it now and for the time being my main focus is to be careful.
Keep us posted how things go for you. I’m hopeful for you.
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Thanks SO much......
Yes, I am resilient and I will bounce back from this, perhaps even stronger than before.
I couldn't agree more about what I bolded in your message. People are innately selfish, I've concluded. Even if you've helped them out, perhaps even saved them from failure, they are too selfish to return the favor. It says volumes about THEM and their character to me.
Ironically, my most difficult former client came to me and offered to help with a recommendation! So I am thrilled and most grateful! She's a good one.
I am SO happy for you regarding your own work situation, and I am very proud of you!!!! You have struggled with that issue for a long time now, and it seems you've found a great solution that is working well for you. And I am SO glad you feel happier! Kudos to. you and great work!!!!!!
I, too, am learning valuable lessons when dealing with others. Very valuable. I am going to proceed with caution the next go around. Far greater caution than I exercised in my last job.
I will definitely keep people posted on what's happening.
Thanks again.
