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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Have you said point blank that these types of interactions with single men bother you? I think she’s doing as she pleases without regard to how it may make you feel. It’s most insensitive. And if you express your feelings and she yells at you for that? That is very unfair and is toxic behavior. It gives you NO voice, opinion or right to your feelings in the matter. She does as she wants.
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Yes, I have told her in the past. She always says she's not doing anything wrong. She always tries to put it back on me saying I have insecurities and I need to get over it. Well, I don't react, and I calmly keep coming back to her and keep pointing out the same issue over and over. Sorry, but after a while of coming to someone calmly, I think it becomes their issue. Zero regard. Now she just tries to convince me that it's ok, because it doesn't bother her if I contact one of the kids moms.
This behavior, while in itself seems nice, reminds me of my ex who was worse. She used to say that she wouldn't be upset if I had a one night stand as long as I didn't fall in love. What!? To me my current wife is doing the same thing. She is trying to convince me that what's good for her is good for me. That's nice, but it doesn't help a person who struggles with something. Thats like telling an alcoholic that, hey I can drink, so can you!