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Originally Posted by Aviza
He doesn't believe or respect my job. He doesn't believe in Chiropractic care and I'm an assistant to a chiropractor. He of course disagrees with my numerous divorces. Frankly I'm surprised he even talks to me and I said that.
I talked about seeing a psychic he really doesn't agree with that thinks they're all frauds who take your money. Just anything I talk about he dismisses or disagrees with.
He has said he doesn't like anybody and just pretends. I know its true now. He really doesn't like me. But I'm family. He even helps me. But I'm taken back a bit. Not sure what to do now that i know the truth.
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It sounds like you do what I do -- which is futile so it will never work. You continue to reach out and try to emotionally connect with someone who isn't interested in reciprocating your emotional connection. And, they show their disdain by treating you poorly.
Both of my siblings do this. My sister won't even let me walk her dog anymore. When she found out that my nephew let me walk their dog she went ballistic. This dog and I are very close and for 9 years of that dog's life, I always took the do g to the dog park, or in my car and never had any problems with controlling the dog in public.
So, my sister is using her dog as a way to control me. She is projecting her disdain for me on to her poor dog as a way to justify to her children that their aunt is unreliable and a total loser.
What you have to learn to do -- which doesn't happen overnight but YOU have to be the one to do it -- is STOP TRYING TO EMOTIONALLY CONNECT with your brother. He doesn't like you. There is nothing you can do to change that. So, just stop. I know that's probably not what you want to hear.
At some point, you need to have some dignity and draw the line and stop being vulnerable around your brother because you know he'll just put you down for it.
We cannot control the way others treat us. That's statistically impossible to do. The only person you have control over, is yourself. So, only you can decide, when enough is enough, with how your brother poorly treats you. You can't force him to be nice to you. But you can ignore him. You can stop visiting with him. You can cease contact with him. To protect yourself emotionally.