> are you sure "on the watch for" isnt sometimes confused for "searching for evidence to back up my foregone conclusion?"

No, I am not sure!

> if you feel you should run.. what stops you from running?

Well, I can think of two possibly different reasons.

One, when I was a child, letting my mother realize that I wanted to run was dangerous, because it could well cause a renewed attack by her. So I sometimes feel that I have to try to conceal my real desire to run.

Two, I think that running from a situation, even when I feel strongly that it's exactly what I want to do, may not be a good solution to my problems!

> None of what i said is meant as criticism, just honest questions that you dont have to answer.

Yes, Fluff, I can see that, from the way you express it.