Hi. This is my very first post. My husband of 21 years revealed to me a few months ago that he wants to be on his own and as soon as he can do so financially he will leave. He wants to be “best friends” but does not love me as a wife, only as the mother of our children. I did not see this coming at all, we have been fine, with usual issues that all married couples deal with. There has been zero infidelity issues in my part and he reassured me zero on his part also. He is eager for me to “get over it” and “move on” and gets annoyed when I break down and try to rationalize how we got to this point. I know I will be fine in the future, but it is sooooo hard right now. During the week. Because I am
Busy working, I’m great, but the weekends are depressing, as he is perfectly normal and happy with his new chosen path. We have two older teens who are aware of what is going on and have been champions so far. I joined this forum because we have not told any family or friends yet, and don’t plan on doing so for a while, and I therefore have no one to talk to about this. So to keep from a roller coaster ride of breaking down every few days and talking to him about it, here I am! I can’t get this out of my head. I want to leave the house periodically, go on a hike or bike ride, but most often talk myself out of it because I am so accustomed to doing these activities WITH someone, not alone .

Thanks in advance for your support.