Guy, I’m going to be super honest here. Your wife is very dysfunctional and unbalanced and so is your relationship and marriage. I don’t see her changing unless she can truly own up to her behaviors- all of them. Then she would need to work on making radical changes. An apology for her bad behavior and wanting to hear you out are two good first steps. But full ownership of the bad behaviors and changing those behaviors to healthier ones are another step she needs to take. You don’t need to put up with her need for attention from single men OR her ranting and yelling at you. What you need to do is take a strong stand on both. These are unacceptable behaviors within a healthy marriage.