(((((((((((Colleen))))))))))))

I'm sorry your hurting so much right now

And I know it doesn't feel like this right now, but maybe it was a good thing that your husband sat you down and had that talk with you. I think it's important in every relationship that the two partners be honest with each other, and it seems to me that that's what he was trying to do.

I realise I wasn't there, and I don't know him at all... but from my experience, things seem to have to get worse before they can get better. Think of this as the "worse" stage, but with the hopes that this will lead to the "better" stage where you both have a better understanding of each other.

The fact that he said that he can forgive you should tell you that he's NOT given up on you. He obviously still loves you because he respects you enough to tell you how he's feeling. And yes, maybe he does need time... but i think the important thing to focus on is that he WANTS things to improve. He is on your side, you just have to have some patience with him.

I know its hard to tell people IRL about your struggles... but hun, thats how people grow. Thats how people come to understandings of each other.... and if you can just take that leap and try and confide in people, you just might be surprised at how they respond. And in your husbands case... it doesn't seem to me like he wants to go anywhere. So try just a little to tell him how your feeling. Even if its just telling him that your scared to share a lot...

Baby steps.

Hang in there hun... i'm sorry i haven't been around much, but i religiously check my email so if you need to get a hold of me, thats the best way.

Hugs
Jacq