Hello,

I'm a new member to the forum. I wanted to reach out for support from others who have experience the breakup of a marriage. My one-year wedding anniversary is in 10 days and my husband has ghosted me now for the past 10 days. I don't know what I did to him (according to me nothing). He refuses to take my calls or communicate with me in any way. This is the most hurtful thing I believe I have ever experienced in a relationship because I married with the intent of being happy and being together til death do us part. I just don't understand how someone can say they love so very much and then just get up and walk away. During the last conversation we had, we were in disagreement because I was telling him how much I miss us, and the time we used to be able to spend together. I don't have the evidence to prove it but I strongly believe he's seeing someone else. And as painful as this is, I just wish he'd talk to me and allow us to get the closure I need so that we can both just move on with our lives. Because he refuses to talk to me I don't know if the marriage is officially over or what. I keep thinking that based on his actions of totally ignoring me that the marriage is over. I reached out to his best friend to see if he could get my husband to call me and now even the best friend is ignoring me. I just feel so very hurt because I know I didn't do anything wrong. The incident that led up to this entire ordeal I believe is because a family member of my husband's told me that my husband was seeing someone else, so I confronted my husband about the issue and he denied it. I accepted my husband's answer and kept moving forward with our marriage but ever since this revelation was revealed to me my husband has not been the same, and so he eventually just stopped talking to me. What I'm seeking right now is HOW do I stop the heartache, pain and tears I feel? I just want to know how to go through the pain, not suppress it but honestly heal from it? I don't want to think about divorcing just now because I feel I need to heal this massive pain I feel inside before I take the next step. It's getting harder and harder for me focus on work, eat, sleep and resist the urge to keep calling him when he continues to NOT take my phone calls. If he was just my boyfriend I feel it would be easier but this is my husband, someone I took a vow of commitment with. How do I move forward and make the pain stop long enough for me to truly start healing?