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Old Aug 13, 2020, 08:53 AM
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Originally Posted by Gabyunbound View Post
Came back from a week of caring for my mother who fractured her ankle in two places from a fall. Problem is, she also has MS so her other leg is too weak to help her transfer to her wheelchair. So she's bedridden.

I've barely slept for a week. She had me up like a yo-yo ever 2-4 minutes doing stuff for her (LITERALLY, I am not exaggerating). Up and down during the ngiht. She could be very abusive. I was also sometimes very cranky due to lack of sleep and her lack of boundaries, which is legend.

I still haven't slept much because she called and woke me up last night after I had fallen asleep, and then called and woke me up early this morning.

I finally got 24/7 care set up for her. I was there when her first caregiver arrived. Turned out she spoke and understood very very little English. they couldn't understand each other. It took a while, but I got her someone else. I just called and she said she got a new person and she likes her.

Now that she has care, I want out of her life. It was hell. Hell. Hell.

No self care

No time to myself

as I said, she could be very abusive. Not surprising given her history and persoanlity (ditto lack of boundaries).

My brother refuses to help.

I hope I can pick myself up from this crater.

I have therapy this morning. I missed last week because I was with my mother. I hope it helps. I'm so asleep, my mind is mush, I don't know if it will help, but I hope so.

Thanks for reading.
I'm glad to read that you finally found decent care for your mother. You do need to take proper care of yourself, too. My family can relate to the situation you describe. It's hard, but I truly agree that: you must step away if your health is suffering.
Hugs from:
bpcyclist, Gabyunbound
Thanks for this!
bpcyclist, Gabyunbound