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Old Aug 14, 2020, 06:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Lily11 View Post
No, I didn’t invite him back over to hook up with him. He had checked out of his hotel and I had said he could sleep on my couch since he had a very early flight. I did not think he would attempt any sexual moves on me because i told him I didn’t want it. I said we couldn’t do that anymore. He said ok when I told him that. Because he agreed I thought it would be ok. I didn’t think he would still try. Worst part I asked my boyfriend if it was ok if he came over and if he could sleep on the couch and my boyfriend said ok. Because he trusts me. But apparently he can’t. I know because of this that I can’t ever let anything like this happen again because of How terrible I feel. I did go get an STD test right away at the dr. Hopefully all is ok. My friend said he was recently tested and has nothing but I want to be sure. I just never thought he would try to have sex when I had told him my feelings about the guy I’m with. I told him I will always love him but I would feel too bad if I did it and it would be wrong. I said I wanted this relationship I’m in to bed pure with no lies or cheating.
Oh I see. Well, this paints a very different picture, and thanks for the additional details.

I agree with the others. This 'friend' of yours is no friend. He took full advantage of you, and he knew if he got you drunk he could probably twist your arm into having sex with him. He made advances on you and took off your clothing while you were visibly and clearly intoxicated.

I am glad you got tested for STDs, and I am sorry this happened to you.

As all others have said, I would not have any further contact with this man. He is bad news. He does not care about your well being, your happiness, or your relationship. And he showed no respect for your expressed wishes to not have sex with him. He was all about the sex and what he wanted. Please do see things from this perspective. He was not respectful of you.
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