Yes, maybe you had an ideal of what you wanted your marriage to be and that you would have a partner that would value and appreciate you and love you and be loyal to you. So all you needed was the person to fit into that spot you had and your wife looked pretty enough and showed appreciation for how you were adoring her, much like she does with anyone who compliments her. Then you think you have what you wanted and you find out the partner isn't what you thought and doesn't really fit into the picture you had painted of your ideal. Well, this happens all the time guy. Hense the saying "Love is blind". And putting another person on a pedistal will surely end up with disappointment when the flaws begin to surface.