Well, he is an entrepreneur and has strong charisma along with incredible sales skills. He is a personality in a room and a presence.

Wow, well, if he thought it was a 'date', he could not have been more wrong. That is not how I viewed it at all. When he first offered to have lunch, it was in the context of talking to me about my future path and how he could help me.

As it is, we spoke mainly about professional things while at lunch. It wasn't until we were about to leave and after a couple glasses of wine that he asked how things were at home. I said great, and that there's been a huge turnaround. He said, oh ok-- then a few mins later, he said I was going to invite you to my cottage. So I told him my husband would not be comfortable with that.

The whole thing is weird to me. I am still processing the whole situation.

I cannot cut ties with him. I need his good reference for future jobs. I cannot afford to not rely on his reference.