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I have a friend, we've been friends for 38 years. She's religious and occasionally gives religious tracts or whatever to me. It annoys me, and keeps me from being as close to her as I would like to be.
My husband's answer to any problem I have is to tell me to pray.
When people proselytize to me (about religion or anything else) it causes me to feel distanced from them. I feel condescended to, as if they don't believe I have the inner resources (including my own spirituality) to help myself. And the worst part - I feel that people often pass off their own belief system to me because they're not really listening to me. They've thinking about their own agenda.
I recognize that the good intentions are there, but the most sincere form of help is to really listen to the other. Not to fix, not to tell, but to ask, then to be quiet and listen.
If the relationship is meaningful to you, perhaps you can bring it up to your friend that you are concerned about the situation.
btw, it's not about being a "bipolar person", it's about being a person. Any person, in any situation.
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