In response to your thread title, me too!

Just come back from family meeting at mother's house. It resolved nothing because of my brother's arrogant attitude towards me. Interspersed with raising his voice, talking over me then he smirking most of the time and telling me to get my head from up my backside.

The cause of the rift is well documented under "my sister-in-law lashed out at me" in the Relationships & Communication section, including the latest lengthy update.

Over the past few weeks, have felt closer to my mother but sadly we're back to square one. Pretty obvious from her attitude that he's her favourite and he knows it too. Everything I said this morning was true, yet his belittling attitude was a sorry thing to experience. He was speechless when I told him a few home truths . What shocked me was his failure to see that his wife lashing out at me was domestic abuse.

As a result, we're in exactly the same position a year on from the incident. Realise there's absolutely no hope now of ever solving this problem. He's always wanted to be in charge from when he was younger. Now he can no longer behave that way in his own home, then that could be the reason for this latest problem. Know it's cruel to say this but don't want anything to do with them ever again. Why do we keep coming back for more, instead of distancing ourselves....