Thanks OpenEyes

My aunt took on some caring duties for an elderly neighbour who she also bossed around. There was row between my mother and aunt last week which in its way led to the fall. Going back to their childhoods, aunt was her mother's favourite which led to my mother having to bear brunt of her mother's poor parenting skills. Plus the fact that there's six years between them.

My mother's problem is she won't take issue with my brother, choosing to try and undermine me at every opportunity. She's convinced herself recently that he's got problems at home. The fact that she could see no wrong with his attitude today proved to me that, as the saying goes, "he gets away with murder". What have I just done, placed an order for her medication. She still expects me to do these things for her. Perhaps he'd like the task instead...

The more I think about it, I've allowed myself to be played. No use me keep moaning about it. Only I can take action to preserve my self esteem. I won't be dragged down to my mother's level of self-worth. She even resorted to talking about dying earlier when the situation hadn't been resolved. Now if that isn't emotional blackmail, I don't know what is! But, how do you walk away when someone is frail?