Have slept on it, albeit fitfully and decided only action is to distance myself totally. As a good friend said many years ago, you can only achieve peace with yourself if you end all contact.

I order my mother's medication online so need brother's e-mail address so that he can take it over. Will also be returning door key. Have only just got it anyway after many years when she took it off me in a fit of pique. Promised to contact Social Services about aids for her home and will make contact. However, at the first opportunity he can take it over. Same with her shopping.

What I experienced yesterday was a kangaroo court. The decisions had already been made on the outcome. It's disgraceful that my mother should openly attack me in front of brother then tell me she expected me to stay longer. To openly support a liar told me all I needed to know about our relationship. Some of the comments he made were straight quotes from her. She's told family members that I spend all day on the internet. How she knows when we don't live in the same house... I've never heard someone come out with such a large quantity of bull****!

As for my birthday, don't want to spend it with a manipulative mother who openly displays favouritism. No wonder he sat there looking smug all the time. Of course, my aunt will try to talk me out of it but her idea of my birthday lunch was the cafe in a retail outlet. Thanks but no thanks