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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Yes, maybe you had an ideal of what you wanted your marriage to be and that you would have a partner that would value and appreciate you and love you and be loyal to you. So all you needed was the person to fit into that spot you had and your wife looked pretty enough and showed appreciation for how you were adoring her, much like she does with anyone who compliments her. Then you think you have what you wanted and you find out the partner isn't what you thought and doesn't really fit into the picture you had painted of your ideal. Well, this happens all the time guy. Hense the saying "Love is blind". And putting another person on a pedistal will surely end up with disappointment when the flaws begin to surface.
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As bad as the first marriage was, I at least had about 14 years experience when I started this new one. This girl is coming with zero. I know you said that's no excuse for treating someone badly, but you learn to deal with people's issues when you realize it's not just a little fling that you can run away from. You learn to adapt and change over time. I know it sounds silly but sometimes I feel like I'm in Interview with the Vampire and I've been alive for a thousand years and trying to be patient with her is so boring sometimes. Just even with daily life, watching her try and figure out how deal with sharing household chores or aligning ourselves with parenting rules. It's so frustrating.