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Originally Posted by LilyMop
It’s hard to unlearn old behavior patterns. You’re right that there’s a formula for attracting the wrong kinds of relationships. I used to have that formula perfected. Lol. I’ve had to do what you are doing and sit with the uncomfortable feelings of enforcing my boundaries. Good for you. Keep at it.  |
Oh same with me! I've attracted all sorts of unhealthy people in my lifetime.
It is uncomfortable... it's not an automatic response for me. It's new, learned behavior that I am practicing, and I know you are too.
I had written in the OP that I was taught to always be nice, even if someone is hurting me. And I decided no more of that BS. One can still be polite and pleasant, but can also avoid the person and a negative interaction. I am learning how to still accomplish that.