I found this site in hopes I can find some answers to what i am going through now. Me and my ex were in a relationship for 10 years. high school sweethearts. And we just broke up only 10 months ago. Our first child was only 3 months old at the time..
He started dating someone new, and has told me continuously that me and him are taking a break and "that you never know what will happen in the future". to me this implies that he is willing to get back with me later in the future.
Me and him have had rekindling interactions these past 10 months, and we miss each other. he wants to be with me and so do i. his plan was to wait for a good time to leave his girlfriend so that he doesn't just leave her for me. He wants to catch her cheating as he has found things in her phone before. My plan was to give him time and wait for him. we both know were meant for each other and were willing to work on things.
Now the problem is that his girlfriend just found out she's pregnant. he is devastated. he does not want a child. and he doesn't want a child with her. he wants her to not have the baby. i think she did this on purpose to keep him around. perhaps she knew what he felt about me.
i told him he could have prevented this if he would have just told her what he wants. he does love the girl and blames me for checking out of our relationship and calling it quits because it made him love her.
he doesn't know what to do and i feel devastated that now its going to be harder for us to make it work. i feel like this has gone too far and this wast supposed to happen. now that it has, were both stuck on what to do
should i wait for him, should i move on? where do i draw the line? please help