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Originally Posted by iheartjacques
Ugh. After 29 years you would think I would know what to avoid. Dated a guy for a year. Ignored the red flags. Now I know I have to work on myself. Therapist said he was an abuser and should’ve known better. I’m disappointed. It’s taking me time to get over it.
I guess my question is - will I ever get it right? After all that therapy and staying on my meds etc.
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Therapy and medication can't "cure" you of choosing bad relationships. It's not your therapist's job to change you either. Therapy and medication are mere band aids. The real epiphany has to come from you. Therapy and medication can sometimes trigger epiphanies. But so can terrible, horrible experiences.
You are comfortable with these unhealthy connections with men and only you know why that is.
Once you become uncomfortable, you will change your perspective and will stop getting involved with abusive men.