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Aug 18, 2020, 02:16 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 6,008
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Originally Posted by rr3765
I found this site in hopes I can find some answers to what i am going through now. Me and my ex were in a relationship for 10 years. high school sweethearts. And we just broke up only 10 months ago. Our first child was only 3 months old at the time..
He started dating someone new, and has told me continuously that me and him are taking a break and "that you never know what will happen in the future". to me this implies that he is willing to get back with me later in the future.
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It sounds a little like he is keeping you in his pocket in case it doesnt work out with the new girl, that isnt fair to you.
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Me and him have had rekindling interactions these past 10 months, and we miss each other. he wants to be with me and so do i. his plan was to wait for a good time to leave his girlfriend so that he doesn't just leave her for me. He wants to catch her cheating as he has found things in her phone before. My plan was to give him time and wait for him. we both know were meant for each other and were willing to work on things.
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I do not think this is a good idea or fair to either of you. I do not think this is a great person to string you both along. He either wants you or her. It doesnt matter what he says to either of you. And being with someone in the hopes of catching them cheating is a cop out. Either he wants yo leave or he doesnt. He cant have his cake and eat it too.
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Now the problem is that his girlfriend just found out she's pregnant. he is devastated. he does not want a child. and he doesn't want a child with her. he wants her to not have the baby. i think she did this on purpose to keep him around. perhaps she knew what he felt about me.
i told him he could have prevented this if he would have just told her what he wants. he does love the girl and blames me for checking out of our relationship and calling it quits because it made him love her.
he doesn't know what to do and i feel devastated that now its going to be harder for us to make it work. i feel like this has gone too far and this wast supposed to happen. now that it has, were both stuck on what to do
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How did she trap him? Did he use birth control on his end? its the only way to avoid pregnancy. a woman doesnt get pregnant on her own.
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should i wait for him, should i move on? where do i draw the line? please help
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I do not think you should wait for him. He showed his true colors during the original spilt.
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