For anyone who reads this. There are toxic sites, not properly run, and unfair sites. I paid for a program that turned toxic and when I complained the creator banned me. I demanded a partial reimbursement and never got it. I went to other similar sites and warned others not to give money to this site.

I was bullied on another site that was soooooooooooooo toxic. I made a few friends there and gave them my private email address so we could communicate off the site -- and then I engaged in a kind of all out war with the other people and the administrator, who was just a wimp. He finally banned me and said I could come back if I apologized to him and every single person on the site. Like that was really gonna happen! He was out-of-line and the people who came on the site were very, very toxic. He had no control whatsoever. Even the moderators were toxic. There was bad language, sexually offensive talk, inappropriate uploads, bullying, and violent language and threats. I never apologized to anyone and never went back there. It traumatized me. I continued friendships with the few friends who followed me off the site, and we enjoyed ourselves without interference from toxic bullies.

Some people engage in behaviors online they might never do in real life. Some sites encourage this behavior and it becomes very bad.

Now I VERY carefully choose where I visit and join. I belong to a few communities that have proven to be safe havens and enjoyable environments. This Psych Central site is very well run and monitored, and I feel safe here. When I feel triggered I leave for awhile, or message with a moderator.

My new rules are -- if it isn't fun - or informative - or it doesn't feel safe...I'm gone. In this way I have managed to find places on the internet where the participants are upstanding, fun, supportive, and intelligent.

To the OP...I understand you don't want to leave your site...but in my opinion you really should leave and seek out a better environment. If you have to constantly be blocking and running...then you aren't safe. You should find new places that are both safe and fun. They ARE out there.