I think the spark that ignited the fire is because I said I didn't want to be "in the middle" between her and her husband...who she constantly complains about...and I mean constantly. I knew him even before she met him...so I felt uncomfortable...finally...with decades of hearing her complain about him but never considering divorce.

Okay, I did set a boundary.


It is a new thing for me to set boundaries. I guess I have learned that narcissists just don't accept that.


My marriage didn't work out...and divorce ended it. Period. I would rather be divorced than be unhappily married. She already knew this about me...that this was my stand. To continue to complain to me...well...maybe she struck the match that lit the fire.

Just saying...it takes a long long time to get over the havoc of putting up with a narcissist...then rocking the boat.

All the gifts and cards and sweet messages finally felt false.


I don't know. I feel sad is all. Sad about this whole thing and wish there was closure...but I guess there won't be closure.

PS She is not in a "bad place" except what she creates for herself. She has a lovely home, money, family including grand kids all around her. Her husband is faithful, and a good provider. She doesn't have to work and can just indulge in her hobbies...which mostly includes spoiling her dog, and shopping endlessly. It is difficult to feel sorry for someone who creates a "bad day" for herself because the weather isn't to her liking. Like I said, high maintenance.