A lifelong friendship is complex. For her to say ‘you deserved it’ shows she had a lot of pent up anger, jealousy, resentment toward you. I’m sure you both had every single emotion for each other. Over all that time, everything is bound to happen. It’s more of a family relationship than a friendship. I’m not saying you earned all those bad feelings but obviously she had them because that comment is not anything one would say to a friend.

I occasionally think about my ex lifelong friend. It’s been two years since that final fallout. She got me good with a vicious comment, too. It’s only someone close to you, whom you’ve confided in, who can turn it around on you to hit you with it right between the eyes! It hurts because it makes us think that deep down, it’s true. It takes a stab at our innermost fears and they know it. That’s why they do it. How low can they go to emotionally murder you? Yes, that’s narcissistic.

I’m glad to be rid of my ‘friend’. I miss the good times we had and her sense of humor, when it wasn’t meanly directed at me. I don’t miss her using me and being a pain in the azz. I’m not angry at her for how she lashed out at me. That’s who she is; like when a wild animal is cornered, it will attack and bite. That’s what happened when you had a confrontation with your ex friend. People can turn on a dime.