Yes, these conflicts with friends that forced endings were about ‘good speech’! If mean, hurtful things weren’t said, we’d still be their friends.

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It is also a concept that coms from Judaism. This is a site that sells a book all about what to and not to say. I study this book and still manage to open my big mouth and insert my foot way too often and that is my main problem. But it’s a work in progress.

I don’t know if narcissists have no sense of humor. I see high narcissistic qualities in that friend and others close to me and maybe even myself and we share good sense of humor. I do not have mean spirited sense of humor like some of them do, which I really don’t like and therein lies the difference IMHO.

I feel for you regarding the housing situation and pray you find somewhere safe to go.