I have some concerns my husband may be bipolar. I always thought the disorder started earlier in life. My husband will be 50 the end of the year. Last year he went through a really dark, deep depression. He couldn’t get out of bed, he cried a lot, his normal habits changed. I used to cook dinner a lot and he stopped wanting to have dinner or me cooking dinner. He also got angry, very angry, at small things. I dropped a fork at dinner and he looked at me with these dark eyes. I said the wrong directors name when talking about a movie and it was the end of the world. He’s no longer in that dark depression, the anger is there but not like it was. He talks a lot about being tired and exhausted and needing rest. He’s never gone through any euphoric phases like I thought bipolar people go through. We were always so touchy-feely and very affectionate with one another, and that completely stopped. But he is hyper focused on racism and has been for well over a year. He’s always been very talkative but he seems more talkative and racism comes up in every single conversation. He also starts to get very depressed and cries talking about racism. He surrounds himself reading books and watching movies about people of color who have suffered because of the color of their skin. He has said things like he’s not sick but everything around him and everyone around him is sick. Over a year ago he shocked me and said he wants a divorce. It came from nowhere. A few months ago he changed it into he want to separation. And then it changed into he just needs to get away to rest for a little while. He’s so tired and he wants to rest as what he says. He rented an apartment two hours away from us without telling me (is that euphoric?). He left just over a month ago and haven’t seen him since. He rented an apartment two hours away from us without telling me. He left just over a month ago. Now he says it’s not a separation, it’s just living apart for a little while until he heals. We talk often and he keeps going on his downward spirals about racism. He’s been in therapy for over a year. Not a psychiatrist family practitioner. He has not been himself for a long time. For the last couple of years I chalked it up to stress. I don’t know what’s going on but I am very concerned. He tells me all the time now how much he loves me,. We were back to our normal touchy-feely selves the last couple weeks before he left and he now talks about me being there with him. I’m just so confused. He is in therapy and has been for over a year. I’m in therapy for myself as well.