I would not know. If she is a narcissist I think she wouldn't like it. Because in reading it she would have to be paying attention to me.

And as Open Eyes pointed out...she would probably turn anything I said into something else to use against me.

And that is another trait of narcissists. And I think this is the one thing that identifies a narcissist for me. They constantly TWIST things into a narrative of their own choosing. If they think they are right...then whatever facts to the contrary have to be twisted to suit them.

If you catch them lying about something they will say, "I didn't say that," or "I didn't do that."


Another thing she would say is, "I have always been there for you," which is also a lie because during hard times she often disappears for months, or even years. But she THINKS she has been available. That's what Open Eyes points out. That the narcissist gaslights themselves and believes their own lies.

I did send her a short text. I told her that her verbal attack actually made me ill. It traumatized me...and it made me seek out online counseling. I told her that I felt betrayed, devalued, and bullied. And that I didn't want to talk to her. I didn't say "forever," but I just said I didn't want to have contact now.


I learned in graduate school...that in conflict mediation one should always start sentences with "I..." as in "I feel..." and "I think..."


She started every sentence with "You are..." and "You think..." and "You feel..." which is very aggressive. Because one is making assumptions about the other person and controlling things with a narrative that may not be true.

When people make up a narrative it drives me crazy.


Some people...who are narcissistic...always have to be right. Life is about winning or losing. I can't imagine living that way...and I have a really difficult time trying to understand how a person thinks like that.

Maybe being in a marriage she sees as toxic has warped her. She wasn't always like this. I don't recognize her.