Hi all,

I have been in a relationship for a bit over a year and I am mostly really really happy, but I am worried about my jealousy. I have been cheated on after 10 years of relationship before and that relationship ended out of nowhere for me. I think this still causes anxieties. I trust my new partner 100% and I am not worried he will cheat on me. But if he meets new people and hangs out with them instead of me I sometimes get really angry ( even though he mostly hangs out with guys). I think I am worried that he realises that other people are actually more fun than I am. I really want both of us to have lots of friends and be independent and it makes him really happy so rationally I think it is great that he makes new friends ( he does not exclude me or anything I do meet his friends). I really hate myself for this and I don't say anything since I know how stupid this is but of course he notices that I am upset and I don't really know how to deal with this. I am also very worried that I get very jealous if he finds a close female friend. Again rationally I don't think this would be a problem (most of my best friends are men and I don't think there is anything wrong with this). Any advice how to deal with these feelings would be greatly appreciated.