I am 56. Totally monogamous. Have had 11 serious gf's including one 15-yr wife and another 10-yr partner 2 kids. I am faithful and not a scammer.

That said, i have concluded that all relationships are extremely difficult. Most people wil not sacrifice much when challenges arise. Most people care overwhelmingly about their personal interest. Very few are in anything for the long haul. Very few.

We learn this due to our illnesses. At some point, I concluded that I would prefer to have noone in my life who mistreats me. As a wise man said, "i would rather have one good friend than a thousand relatives."

I am estranged from almost all family and "lifelong" friends. I have much more in common with a schizophrenic on Clozaril. They get me. Am I sad about the loss of those relationships? Only with my son. Other than that, I feel very proud that I do not permit others to mistreat me. Very proud. I will not be abused. I will not love and receive nothing back. I did it for too long.

I would urge you to take command of the situation and take action to protect you. You will never be in control of the feelings or actions of others.

Hugs and love!!