Cool librarian-I do feel for you but I only found out that my psychologist had split from his wife when he was very harsh with me and I called him cruel and that I didn’t deserve the way he was behaving-he apologised and acknowledged that he was in a bad place emotionally-I was gutted by the way he shut down and basically became blank slate and eventually I left which causes much ongoing pain and tears
HOWEVER he is firstly a human being and I don’t feel I had a right to be told-unfortunately I suffered because he couldn’t hide his emotions but his personal and private life are exactly that and he fell apart-I can’t blame him