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Default Aug 23, 2020 at 04:52 PM
 
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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee View Post
I'm curious why you think this is the case. I guess it probably depends enormously on the type of therapy you're doing. I have the kind of therapist who will analyze the occasional dream, and she was fine with me talking about what I imagined her private romantic/sexual life is like. Same when I was going through fertility stuff -- I assumed (rather angrily and perhaps completely incorrectly) that having kids came easily for her because she's straight. She shares almost nothing in this domain, but discussing what I think and feel about anything that seems relevant to me is often fruitful.
I think the difference here is that she wasn't bringing her life into your therapy. You were discussing your projections and your transferential feelings - your material. That's very different from her telling you that she conceived easily and, as such, prodding you to have a response about her life.

I am doing Gestalt therapy and so the work is very relational. Sometimes the boundaries become grey so I have experience of difficult and confusing interactions.
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