This ex-friend texted me months ago and said she would offer me shelter - "except for" her husband. I doubt he would have been negative about it (and just to be clear I NEVER asked her for shelter)...but then that is another thing I hate about people in marriages who say they can't do this or that because of a spouse. You never know if they are telling the truth or using the spouse as an excuse. That strikes me as weak. My ex and I often had people stay with us when they were new in town or in transition. It was never problematic. We never had a lot but we always had enough to share with others and that is one excellent memory I have of our marriage. But then we "honeymooned" by joining Peace Corps together so I guess we had a unique marriage.

I expect no one cares what happens to me, no one can be bothered, or they think it is my "fault" to be in this predicament. I have been trying to get help. Things are really screwy because of the pandemic and people are not in their offices and don't return calls or messages. But I am kind of beyond caring what happens at this point. I feel beyond seeking moral support from anyone and I doubt I will ever again speak with this person.

Tish, so did you recently connect with your son? If so this is cause for celebration. Good for you to have made your needs known. Wow. I am really happy for you!