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Originally Posted by Mountaindewed
Yeah. She said she felt like she had to respond and that if she hadn’t seen them and I had done something then she could have lost her job. I wish she would have just told me not to email her then if it would have been an issue. I don’t get why she was telling me all this stuff about me holding back on the emails and then giving me a hard time about them when I did send them.
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That's confusing. If she told you you can email, even gave you a hard time for holding back, then it seems quite unreasonable to now be upset with you. It's her responsibility to look after herself and be clear about boundaries, not yours to try guessing what is or isn't OK. It's possible that she didn't think through all the implications when she told you you could email, and was unprepared for a crisis situation, but even then, why make that
your problem? Discussing what is / isn't manageable for her, and what to do when in crisis would be sensible, but from the way you put it, sounds like that's not what she was doing? Maybe ask her to clarify why she was telling you those things?