Hi-

I have no idea how old you are....and you do not need to answer. As another poster said, How do you honestly know women in their 60s are having frequent intercourse?

I am a nurse, and there are a lot of memes joking about how afraid RNs are of bedbugs. I had one crawl on me at ex’s...the bedbugs were in his apartment a year before, the apartment was treated professionally....he moved into a townhouse, and they survived over a YEAR. He just thought they were in his son’s mattress & treated the son’s room. BFs mattress was in storage, I have no idea how the bed bugs got into his room....but one crawled on me. I then went down stairs & told him he had another issue..

During menopause, there is a lack of estrogen, sometimes, many times, causing vaginal atrophy. Google it. There is no magic blue pill for women to take....Hormone replacement therapy can be dangerous. Even topical estrogen applied to the vagina is contraindicated in breast cancer survivors...so how safe is it? Are you ok if your wife has a lot of sex with you and develops an estrogen related cancer? Breast cancer and gynecological cancers, especially, are severe.

I had this sex/ menopause issue with my ex....I WISH it was as easy as popping a pill...

Does she indicate why she does not want to have sex? For me, it was painful, with lube & I bled... and then, I avoided even making out with him, because I would say, we can go,so far, and he knew he would orgasm, but no intercourse....And of course, we would get to a certain point and I would be asked “please let me put it in”....ummm...no it causes intense pain and bleeding...
I am not accusing you of this...I am being extremely honest....so I asked him how about I lube up a tapered candle stick and stick it down his urethra? Of course not....it would hurt....and I honestly would not want him to be in pain for my pleasure.

I really think this type of thing needs a lot of open communication. And honesty...and for men to,realize it is not as easy as popping a pill.