I have been taking a break from PC but was reading this thread and felt like chiming in.

Your need for more frequent sex is most valid. Your wife seems to not want it and may not even enjoy it. That’s my take. I’m nearly 50 and am entering menopause. I imagine and realize that as we age our sex drive may diminish considerably. However six times per year is really really low and in my opinion inadequate.. I have a strong and healthy sex drive and once per month is far too little for me. Once per week, given that I’m tired after a long day? Ok, I can handle that.

Your desire for far more sex is not only healthy but valid. It’s gone on for years now. And if your wife feels that it’s dirty then it’s a serious problem.

Perhaps marriage counseling will help to uncover the underlying issues that prevent a healthier and more satisfying sex life. Perhaps that would be a good next step before a decision to separate or divorce - at least then you will have fully tried every avenue first.

That’s my two cents!