Hi-

I have no idea how old you are....and you do not need to answer

During menopause, there is a lack of estrogen, sometimes, many times, causing vaginal atrophy. Google it. There is no magic blue pill for women to take....Hormone replacement therapy can be dangerous. Even topical estrogen app,ied to the vagina, is contraindicated in breast cancer survivors...so how safe is it? Are you ok if your wife has a lot of sex with you and develops an estrogen related cancer?

I had this issue with my ex....I WISH it was as easy as popping a pill...

Does she indicate why she does not want to have sex? For me, it wa# painful, with lube & I bled... and then, I avoided even making out with him, because I would say, we can go,so far, and he knew he would orgasm, but no intercourse....And of course, we would get to a certain point and I would be asked “please let me put it in”....ummm...no it causes intense pain and bleeding...
I am not accusing you of this...I am being extremely honest....so I asked him how about I lube up a tapered candle stick and stick it down his urethra? Of course not....it would hurt....

I really think this type of thing needs a lot of open communication. And honesty...and for men to,realize it is not as easy as popping a pill.